Sufferings, troubles are the mercy of the lord. If everything is going normally, then heartful prayers will not come. You cannot pray mechanically.
Be whoever you want to be, but don’t be motivated by greed, egoism, lust, envy, anger and pride; rather, be motivated by your own inherent nature, as an instrument of God’s compassion.
Krishna's Karuna Shakti (mercy) spontaneously flows to a sincere devotee and the devotee reciprocates it with love and then Krishna becomes a prisoner in his heart.
We cannot force our way into the spiritual world. We cannot force our way to realization. Everything can only come by mercy. God bestows his mercy and reveals himself according to the devotional love that we have.