People who always position themselves as the victim will never grow. They always think that other people are hurting them in some way. Although it could be a reality, if they anticipate and look for it, they will just create that around them to an even greater extent. They will begin to chant the same mantra in their minds, “Somebody didn’t treat me right, someone didn’t look at me right, someone didn’t address me right, someone didn’t take care of me properly, someone used me improperly…” Consequently, a person who always sees him or herself as the victim becomes the perpetual victim because violence brings more violence.
Reference: Spiritual Warrior VI: Beyond Fanaticism, Terrorism, and War – Discover the Peace Solution, Closing Reflections